Sunday, April 22, 2012

Criss Cross Twists and Organic Products

Hola, curly mamas! A few days ago, I tried a new random hairstyle on Syriah. Here it is!
It's nothing super spectacular, but I'm proud of it because I came up with it. As you can see, I design my own cute artwork through Adobe Photoshop, which I LOVE doing. I love photography... children's photography. I finally found time to do this in between getting ready for baby.
As far as products, I used my usual favorites: the Shea Moisture curly pudding and EVOO (extra virgin olive oil). Syriah's hair has been in the best health thus far. It's growing rapidly the way it's supposed to, not like the way it was last year. Last year, I was really new to natural hair care, and I took practically a whole year of research and experimentation to find out what to do and not to do with her hair. Like I may have mentioned before, my new daughter will be lucky because she's going to start off not having any chemicals in her little hair or on her body, because now I know better and we can also afford to do better this time.
Tip of the day: Try to avoid excessive combing on your daughter's hair. Do as little as you possibly can. It's best to gently finger comb to avoid breakage. Also, do not brush a lot, especially around the edges. Hopefully you guys own boar's head brushes (Denman brushes), and if you do not, I advise you to get one. That's the best kind of brush for African American hair.
This picture here is a stash of all of the natural/organic products that I've switched to recently. You can see the Shea Moisture pudding and shampoo, the glass jar under that is a mixture of my own shea butter concoction for hair AND body. To the left is the EVOO I use, and the Earth Mama baby wash/shampoo that I got for the new baby. Then there's Tom's all natural deodorant, because I'm sick of the normal ones either irritating my armpits or having to use the harmful spray kind, and my Burt's Bees lip balm. On the right is my PerioWash mouthwash and the matching PerioBrite toothpaste. Just a piece of how I am working to improve my family's overall lifestyle as far as health. These products are all awesome so far.
Pregnancy update? Currently 34 weeks and waiting! Few more weeks to go! =)
Well, that's all I have for now. Questions or comments? Comment below or on Facebook. Peace out, curly mamas! <3

Sunday, April 8, 2012

Rat Tails

My son Jam has a rat tail that he's been growing since birth! I cut his hair myself with scissors when he turned one year old last summer. The haircut didn't come out all that good looking, but I didn't have an electric razor then. I did, however, cut his hair into a rat tail because my hubby and I had been talking about wanting him to have one. Hubby himself wants one, but hasn't done it yet for job reasons. You know how that can be. It's all about professionalism in the work field.
So little Jam had a rat tail in the back of his head. I thought it was so cute. I don't have a picture on hand that shows how it looked then and how long it was, but I have a picture of how long it's gotten now within a year. He's so cute with it. That rat tail has defined his personality.
Lots of people compliment him on it when we're out and about. Most people don't like them anymore or at all, simply because they say, "Oh, that's so old school! No one does that anymore." Well, I don't care about that at all. I do what I do because I want to, not because it went out of style fifteen years ago. Who cares? Who says it's illegal to wear certain things? I'm aware of how rare rat tails are nowadays, and that's what made me want to do it to my son even more. No one cares to be unique anymore.
Everyone wants to follow the crowd. Why? When has the re-evolution of the mo-hawk come through and transformed the heads of practically every little black boy I see? Why does every single little boy nowdays have a mo-hawk, even the black ones? Where's the originality? It's at the point now to where I can't stand mo-hawks, and I vowed to never give my son one, and not even my daughter. They've even got little girls rocking mo-hawks, probably because of Willow Smith. Does everyone have to follow celebrities? I mean, seriously!? It's not even cute anymore. I will PURPOSELY not give either one of my kids a mo-hawk so I won't look like I'm following the crowd as well. This is kind of ridiculous.
I don't care what's so-called old school and what's not. Afros are considered old school, especially the huge ones. Don't care. Are they not coming back into existence? I rock my fro sometimes, and occasionally let Syriah wear one. And? Am I some kind of out of date hippie? Don't care. I actually argued with someone over Facebook once because she didn't believe in boys having rat tails anymore. It's one thing if it's just a style you simply don't like at all. But it's another thing when you won't use the style just because oh, that was back then, we don't wear those anymore. Who gives a rat's tail about that?! LOL!
In essence, I am proud to have my son wear a hairstyle that has supposedly gone out of style. Gives him a lot of personality and makes him stand out among other little black boys. That's the point of living and experimenting. If you can't be yourself and do what you like, then what else is there to do with life? Life is stressful enough without worrying about not wearing a certain hairstyle because it's 'old'. I'm seeing women nowadays wear hairstyles from the 40's. Some of them look really nice. I don't care if it went out of style in the 60's. Doesn't matter. If you like it, wear it. You'll stand out even more, and thus far, Jam has stood out a lot lately when I take him out. Even white people are impressed with his rat tail. If you don't like a particular style, then you just don't like it, but don't bash someone because of the simple fact that they haven't seen anyone wear the style in ten years. Everything always comes back around at some point, anyway. Don't believe me? Do your research.

Peace, curly mamas! Keep doing your thing.

Thursday, April 5, 2012

Why Some Naturals PISS Me Off!

Okay, so before I tell you why some women who've gone natural piss me off to the utmost sometimes, let me post a new hairstyle I did on Syriah last week. She loved it. I used the Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie. I think I've fallen in love with that stuff. Works so well with the shampoo!
Alright, back to the topic.
We all know that lately, ever since I don't even know when, there's been a rise in woman going natural with their hair. I think it was because of that Chris Rock documentary called "Good Hair". It was an interesting documentary, even though it mostly explained how bad perms were and not really enough about how to take care of your natural hair. But oh well. It has raised awareness in a lot of areas. Whenever this epidemic began, women have started to become more arrogant than ever about their hair, meaning that the ones who have gone natural tend to constantly look down upon the ones that aren't natural. And this is where I get annoyed. Really annoyed.
So, you've decided to go natural. You've whacked off your perm completely and are now rocking a TWA (teeny weeny afro). You're experimenting with curly puddings and mixtures and trying to figure out your true hair texture. You're seeing growth. You're doing your thing and you're loving it. Going natural, quite naturally, brings you a sense of independence, confidence, and freedom. You can be yourself and not worry about getting a touch up every six weeks, or whether or not a couple of drops of rain have settled into your bone straight locks and caused uncontrollable frizz and fuzz. You can be FREE and HEALTHY!
But who says that you have to go to work every day now and belittle your coworkers who you faithfully used to go get those six week touch ups with? Why do women like this suddenly become arrogant and walk around like, "Oh, I'm better than you. You still get perms. You need to stop using those chemicals; you're burning out your hair. Hmmph. You need to just follow me and be a real black woman." Well, just a couple of months ago, you were doing the same thing, fool! It's crazy how I've seen some women act. They just roll their eyes at people who still perm, or even people who've stopped perming but they still straighten. "You're not really natural. You're still straightening to look like a white girl. You still can't see your curl pattern." So what?! Did you really expect every black woman to want to transition the same time you did? All you're doing is making women NOT want to go natural because they don't want to follow the 'stuck up natural bitches' who think they're all that and a bag of chips just because they decided to transition when they did.
How about a reality check? There are thousands of women who decided to transition before you, honey. Did they rub it in your face? Nope. We naturals are supposed to lead by example, not go around and brag. We're not supposed to bring down the women who have not yet achieved the level of confidence that you have, and if you bring them down, it only shows that you DO NOT have any confidence in yourself at all. If you absolutely have to brag about ditching perms and sulfate-laced shampoos, then you going natural obviously hasn't taught you a damn thing.
I'm not going to ever brag about my natural hair. I'll show pictures, leave tips, offer encouragement to women to want to go natural but are scared or intimidated, but I will not fling my curls in someone's face and say, "You idiot, why don't you just go natural? Why don't you just leave the perms alone? Don't you want your hair to look like mine? Your hair is falling out; you need to fix that mess!" If I see a woman with nice looking hair, I still compliment them on it, whether it's bone straight, curly, or a head of nice looking weave. I don't do weave, but some women who are going natural do because they're still afraid to actually SHOW their real hair in public, so they wear weaves and wigs. That's their business. Everyone is not going to go natural at the same time you did, and some of these women need to realize that. Same with their daughter's hair. Some people perm their girl's hair, and the ones with daughters who's hair has never even seen a perm stick their noses up at them. Come on, people. It's their decision. You can't force someone to change their hair habits, just like you can't force someone to convert to your religion. Same thing. If we were all the same, this world wouldn't have any originality!
People are treating this natural/not natural thing like it's supposed to be some kind of a competition, and it's becoming something where women have to 'take sides'. It's not supposed to be that way. Black women have enough hair problems as it is to have to explain to someone why they haven't gone natural after being begged for seven months. Hell, I wouldn't, either! Stop pressuring everybody to do what you do. Just leave it alone.
Whew. Just had to throw out that little rant. There was another woman on YouTube who mentioned this topic and how frustrated she was with it, and I was like, wow, that's an interesting subject. I've come across women ONLINE who are that arrogant about their new found curls. Black women need to get it together and support one another, no matter what our hair looks like. I would never, EVER pressure someone into going completely natural. Like I said, tips, suggestions, advice is all I'm even going to do. If and when you decide to go natural is up to you. Not my job to make sure you have your curls popping some time this century. I'll do me and you do you. =)
Peace out, curly mamas!